23 and What Is Love to Me

This was one of those shower thoughts.

I have been racking my head over what today’s blog was going to be about, and this one is it. If I am being truthful with you, it is the reason I believe we are all here.

Love.

Yes, you read that right. Love.

No, I am not talking about romantic, couple-type love. I am talking about how love is all around us every single day, and how often we turn a blind eye to it.

You have love in so many different forms in your life that I do not think we always realize. If you have a friend, friends, a special someone, or anyone you can call when times are hard, that is love.

I think media has warped our version of love, making us believe it is something chosen, something only a few people get to experience. Especially “true love.” But I am here to tell you that is completely false.

Yes, if you have a significant other, you can do all the cute, lovey-dovey things you see on Pinterest, and that is love. But so is cuddling in bed with your favorite stuffed animal. That is love you give to yourself and your younger self at the same time. That is beautiful.

But I am not done.

There is a right to love.

I think in today’s world, we get stuck focusing on the negative. But imagine if we shifted our energy toward focusing on the good. How much lighter would we feel? Your feelings turn into thoughts, and your thoughts shape your reality.

There is a little bit of old forex knowledge for those of you who did not know I was once a part of that world way way back. I am not anymore, but I always kept that lesson because it is true.

Late last year, I was diagnosed with something related to my mental health that I will speak about in future blogs, just not this one. That perspective applies whether you have a diagnosis or not.

I'm getting a little off track. That tends to happen. Not exactly a one-track mind over here, but we still do our best.

Anyway, back to love.

If you have a favorite TV show that you cried over when the last episode aired, *cough cough* the Stranger Things finale, do you realize how special that is? To see so many people collectively share their joy and love for something that is now finished is honestly beautiful.

I think we are really good at identifying negative emotions like sadness, hurt, and fear, but we struggle to recognize and navigate the positive ones.

Today, for example, I was exhausted from work. Drained as fudge haha this is a family channel, okay. But seriously, I was on the verge of spiraling and putting myself through more stress because I was focused on what was not happening instead of what was actively happening around me.

So I made a decision. I calmed myself down. I breathed. I put both feet on the ground and focused on the good and the beauty around me.

The snow falling delicately to the ground. The misty, light blue sky. The inventions all around me. Cars. Tables. Outfits.

I focus on inventions because they are a constant. Someone loved an idea so much that now people use it and wear it every day. That thought gets me stoked every time I step outside of myself and focus on the good around me.

My sister once told me something that I always remind myself of when things feel hard, scary, or uncertain. If there was only good in the world and no bad, we would not be able to appreciate or love the good for what it truly is.

She is very wise. I should tell her that more often.

What I am getting at is this. Look at the conversations you have with others, whether long or short. They are a form of love. The smile you give a child holding an adult’s hand while crossing the street. The compliment you feel compelled to give about someone’s hair, outfit, or nails.

Interaction brings people closer. It makes people feel loved. Isn’t that why you love social media, at least to some extent?

If you have friends or a partner who are no longer in your life, you still loved. You had the right to love, and you still do.

When you feel sad and get that frog in your throat, that is love too. Love is not always smiles and unicorns. But just because something happened does not mean it is not still happening in other ways now.

Look for it. You will find it.

And if that feels too hard because so much is happening inside of you or around you, ask God. He will always reveal it to you and place you in that calm, appreciative state of mind. You just have to ask.

So if you are going through a hard time right now, remember this. You are loved. There is always someone silently adoring you, and without you, they would not have that connection, because there is no one else like you.

You have so many forms of love around you. Focus on finding them.

If you fear losing something, even something as small as that one favorite top, you love it for a reason. Dig into that.

Love is the connection between everything we have and everything we want.

So next time, or even right now, focus on the good. Focus on the feeling it brings, and hold onto it

thank you for coming back ♡

Davyne signing out